Posts by dazed but not confused

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Well my JW elder dad has lost his job...

by BU2B in

as a little background, my dad became a jw in 1980 i think, went to bethel, married my mom in 86' went back for another year and then i came along... he worked in the auto repair shop at bethel while he was there, and upon leaving, continued working in this field.

my whole life they have been the type of jw parents that tell you how you will never get to high school, never graduate it, never get married in this system, never have children in this system etc.. i say this to illustrate the end is just around the corner attitude they have always had, probably because they fully bought/buy into the hype at the conventions/wt articles.

my father has no plan in place for retirement, and he is physically slowing down doing such hard laborious work.

dazed but not confused

Stressful. I love my mom but more than a 3 day visit and I’m pulling my hair out.

They sound like they have options even if they don’t want to see it that way. Your mom may have to find a job and your dad could find work with other “brothers” couldn’t he?

I would take in my mom if I had to; she is on disability and hasn’t worked since I was 4 or 5. She is fine where she is, but it could be necessary in the future to take her in.

Your parents may be looking for the easiest solution which may be, to them, move in with you. You might need to subtly but firmly recommend selling the house and both finding jobs. If it becomes necessary, set a limit 2-3 months? on how long they can stay… if it comes to that. I feel for you. This will not be an easy situation unless your dad gets a good job and quick.

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Do you feel guilty?

by Justmenthedogs in

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so while i was out hiking with the dogs today i got to thinking about this forum and was wondering how many of you still feel guilty from time to time for leaving?

i do, i miss my family at times but then i think about the life that i have created and i have a good one, i have good friends and i am happy, happier then i ever was as a jw.

i was just wondering if others feel the same way sometimes..

dazed but not confused

Never.

My mom and sister are still in, and i feel bad for them.

I was delusional and living their (WTS’) lie without realizing it. Most every JW is in the delusion. I can’t help but feel bad for them.

After leaving, I realized how much needless guilt I felt while attending. I felt I could never live up to their standards and always felt guilt for one thing or another.

Fu*k em. No more guilt.

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